If you're a divorced parent of a teenager, you've probably had to face your ex-spouse at your child's parent-teacher conferences, basketball games, band concerts or other school events. If you're newly divorced and haven't experienced this, welcome to the age of co-parenting at extra-curricular events!
For many co-parents, these types of shared events can be nerve-wracking at best and quite miserable at their worst. Even when their children are only in elementary school.
Now, fast-forward to middle school and high school. Your child's life becomes more complex. New challenges arise for parents of teenagers, no matter their marital status.
Two big ones: school dances and learning to drive.
Have you though about how co-parenting works when your child starts to attend school dances? How do you figure out co-parenting when your teen is ready to learn to drive?
These two situations are not simple for moms and dads who are married to their children's other parent. They get even more complex when parents are divorced or separated, and living separately.
You might think... "dances aren't any big deal." Consider this: the age which your child can start attending school dances is often the very beginning of dating, sex, exposure to drinking, drugs and time spent in a casual and (often) poorly supervised environment.
I'm not trying to scare you - really! But I do think dances are important to think about and plan for. Many factors must be considered: transportation, costs, managing risks and, most importantly, your child's safety.
These same factors come up again when your teen is ready to learn to drive. Who will teach your child to drive? What if you and your co-parent do not agree on the timing of driving lessons, costs, and your child having access to a vehicle? Your teen learning to drive is a time that will put your co-parenting skills to a real test!
Driving and school dances are events that many parents do not consider when they are divorcing. Did you? If not, that is alright. Divorce Proofing and Audrey Cade are here to help!
Join us in the Divorce Proofing Facebook Group on Friday 8/25/17 at 2pm Mountain Daylight Time for a Facebook Live interview to discuss co-parenting at school events, school dances and when your teen learns to drive! Divorced parent, author and Divorce Warrior Audrey Cade will share her advice on how to expertly co-parenting during these challenging times.
Audrey Cade, author of Divorce Matters: Help for Hurting Hearts and Why Divorce is Sometimes the Best Decision, is a matriarch of a stepfamily of six children and an experienced "divorce warrior" in the areas of co-parenting, step parenting, parental alienation, and re-marriage. She is a featured blogger for DivorcedMoms, contributor for DivorceForce, Worthy Living and has been published in the Divorce Magazine, The Good Men Project, StepMom Magazine, and others.
We hope you'll join us for this exciting interview - just in time for the beginning of the school year!
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The video will be added to this post later in the day on 8/25/17.
Bethany Raab is a Denver-based social worker who loves helping teens and their families be happy and healthy!